Forgiveness; The Most Godlike Act a Person Can Do

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By Brian Gosur

Never are we acting more like God, then when we forgive someone. Forgiveness is the closet action to God that we will ever undertake.

In today's society, forgiving someone is almost looked down upon. Vengeance and getting even is what is portrayed as the true test of ones strength. Forgiveness is an act of a cowering weak wimpy person. Is it? Lets look a little bit closer at the importance of forgiveness.

What's the definition of forgiveness? Forgiveness is a promise. Forgiveness is a pledge. Forgiveness is a statement of undeserved and unearned love that says, no matter what you've done, there is no anger, no hatred, no desire for vengeance, and there will never be no retaliation. I do not hold you guilty, and I do not blame you. I hold no self pity for myself because I have been offended. I pass by this transgression completely, and extend my love to you fully. That is biblical forgiveness.

We see this character trait of God in Exodus chapter 34 and verse 6.God is talking to Moses here.

"And the LORD passed by before him, and proclaimed, The LORD, the LORD, a God full of compassion and gracious, slow to anger, and plenteous in mercy and truth."

This is totally in contrast to what is being taught from Hamas, Bin Laden, and the radicals that call themselves Muslims and the voice of Islam. There is no forgiveness taught there, because there is no forgiveness in them. Only hate and vengeance flows through their veins.

"Seek the Lord while He may be found, call upon Him while He is near, let the wicked forsake his way and the unrighteous man his thoughts and let him return to the Lord and He will have compassion on him and to our God, for He will abundantly pardon." Isaiah 55: 6-7

I know a women who years ago was just a working class girl. Single. Enjoyed the party life. One day after her bowling night with her friends, she was leaving to go home. She had a few beers to drink. Nothing out of the ordinary. She wasn't stoned drunk, but while she was pulling out she didn't see the man on the motorcycle. What she thought was a slight bump to the motorcycle, turned out to be much more. She went to see if he was alright, but she could see by the twisted body, that he was not alright. He was dead!

The police came. She was arrested, and tried for manslaughter. Punishable by a long term in prison. But to her amazement, while the trial was coming to a close, the dead mans family chose not to prosecute the girl. In an emotional plea, they decided to forgive her and let her go.

Today that girl and the dead man's family are good friends. They are all Christians and go to the same church, The girl goes around to schools and preaches to kids the dangers of drinking.

The press went wild with the story of the great act of forgiveness that this family showed this girl. There were stories in all the major newspapers, and they were even on the "Good Morning America" show.

The extension of forgiveness changed, not only the girl's life forever, but the families involved, and who knows how many countless individuals who came to hear or read about this incredible act of forgiveness.

Jesus Christ taught many parables or stories while He was alive, and one of the most familiar stories was a story of a fathers great love for his son, and forgiveness of a wrong that was totally undeserved.

It is found in the Gospel according to Luke, chapter fifteen. The son said to his father that he wanted his part of the inheritance. He didn't want to stay with the family. He was tired of living under his roof and under his rules. He was going to go out and do what he wanted to do. ( Kinda sounds almost like the kids of today.) You have to understand, that this was a huge insult to the father, and normally the son would be considered dead to the family and no longer accepted into the house ever again.

Now while this lad is out and spends all his money and times start to get bad. He has no where to go and no food to eat. he finds a part time job tending to a farmers pigs.( How is that. A Jewish kid tending to pigs?) He is so hungry, that he starts eating the slop that the pigs eat.

He decides to go back to his father, and admit that he was wrong and ask his forgiveness. He won't ask for anything but to be treated like one of his fathers servants. He knows that it would be wrong to ask to be let back into the family circle.

Well while he is walking down the road that leads to his fathers house, rehearsing what he is going to say, his father sees him from the living room window, and runs out the door to meet his son. In Luke's account of this story on the power of forgiveness, it says that not only did the father run out to meet his son, but his heart did also. Luke 15:20; "his heart went out to him."

They meet each other and before the son could get a word out of his mouth, the father grabs him and hugs him so tight. The father is elated that his son is back. No guilt! No big speech of how he let him down! No anger! No hatred. The father just pours out his love on his son. The father puts the finest robe on him and a ring on his finger, and they have a huge feast and celebration. The father says, " my son was dead, and now he is alive again." ( Luke 15:24) Maybe our government should learn this, and instead of forgiving huge corporations for squandering the stockholders money, they should forgive honest hard working people their financial woes, and start listening with your heart .

This is a story of God's great love for you and me. The salvation He provides. We have all turned to our own way. ( Isaiah 53:6 ) We, like the son, have said, I don't need you God. I want to live my life my way. I don't like your rules. But like the father in the story, God is waiting and looking to see if you a tired of going your own way. He is looking out the window, down the road to see if you decided that you had enough of getting beat up from the world. Come on home. He is waiting to forgive you. He has already done it. While He was hanging on the cross, He said, " Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do." ( Luke 23:34)

You are never more like God, then when you forgive. He has certainly left us with the greatest example of forgiveness. His son, Jesus Christ





Can you forgive, if this was your son?

" But God showed His love for us, that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us." Romans 5:8
" But God showed His love for us, that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us." Romans 5:8

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SweetiePie Level 6 Commenter 3 years ago

Stories like these are good to hear. Especially if it can get more people to think about not drinking and driving, and the fact his family forgave her speaks volumes of their kindness.

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Brian Gosur Hub Author 3 years ago

Thanks for the comment SweetiePie.

I know it is one of the hardest things to do. My Mom once told me that she never apologized to anyone in her life. She said that she never put herself that position.

I was so sad to her my own mother say that.

We all need to learn how to say; " Will you please forgive me. I was wrong."

God bless you SweetiePie

Brian

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Jennifer Bhala 3 years ago

Mahatma Gandhi said "If we practice an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth, soon the whole world will be blind and toothless."

"The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong."

Alexander Pope said "To err is human, to forgive, divine.

"He who cannot forgive breaks the bridge over which he himself must pass." George Herbert

It is a great story to hear. Thanks for sharing

 

 

Kimi 3 years ago

I try to practice forgiveness every day. I start with forgiving myself for any indescretions that I may have perpetuated the day before. I look at my own actions and ask for my fathers forgiveness. Someone once told me that it is easy to forgive if you keep in mind that the person needing the forgiveness just simply may not live their life the way you live yours but none the less is a child of God. We are never able to completely walk in anothers shoes and we are never 100% cognizant of the reasons behind anothers actions. From their vantage point their action may have been the only action they knew how to carry out. I feel compelled to repeat the quote that Jennifer stated above. To err is human, to forgive, devine.

One of the hardest things I ever have done was to forgive my own father and my step-father. It took accepting that they simply weren't the fathers I thought they should have been but they were the fathers the only way they knew how to be. Lessons learned came late but thankfully before they left this time and place.

Brian, you have written another great thought provoking HUB. Thank you.

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Vladimir Uhri Level 5 Commenter 3 years ago

Excellent hub Brian.

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Brian Gosur Hub Author 3 years ago

Thanks Jennifer. I had a pastor from way back who used to say that all the time.

" To err is human, to forgive, devine."

Thanks Jenn

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Brian Gosur Hub Author 3 years ago

Thanks Kimi;

I have struggled with this off and on in my life. To forgive or ask for forgiveness, goes against the grain of our human nature, and the pride that walks so in step with it.

Thank you for your comment Kimi

Brian

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Brian Gosur Hub Author 3 years ago

Thank you Vladimir.

I certainly appreciate your interest and your thoughts.

Brian

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Jody Heckenlively 3 years ago

Great topic, Brian. I heard this phrase this weekend & it struck a chord, " I am sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you."

Simple and effective. No need to engage in drama!

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Brian Gosur Hub Author 3 years ago

I had to use that this past week Jody. To my wife. We are moving and things are really up in the air.

There is just something special that happens, when those words are spoken.

Thanks Jody for your comment

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Lgali 3 years ago

Excellent hub Brian.

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Brian Gosur Hub Author 3 years ago

Thank you Lgali.

I have been forgiven much and I love to share with others where that forgiveness comes from.

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Steve Orris 2 years ago

Great story. Here is another one: Read the whole story in the Bible in Matthew 18:21-35. I'll sum it up.

A man was completely forgiven of a huge debt he could never repay. Not long after that he got mad at someone who owned him very little. Read Matthew 18:34-35 carefully. Think about it.

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Brian Gosur Hub Author 2 years ago

That is another great story on forgiveness Steve. How can I hold anything back toward someone, when I have been forgiven so much? He mercies are new every morning.

Thanks Steve for that nice comment.

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Melanie Hanni 2 years ago

Amen to this one - really when it comes down to it forgiveness is a gift we give ourselves - that frees us from bondage - holding a grudge destroys the individual - as imperfect as we each are, how can we not forgive each other and expect others to forgive us?

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Brian Gosur Hub Author 2 years ago

Right you are Melanie. Holding a grudge just destroys me, not the one I am holding it against.

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revray 19 months ago

Great hub, thanks for posing it!!!!!

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Brian Gosur Hub Author 19 months ago

Thank you Rev. Ray for your comment.

God bless

Fay Paxton 15 months ago

You selected a great topic, Brian. Holding a grudge never solved anything and hurts no one but the grudge-holder. Thanks for posting this meaningful article.

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Brian Gosur Hub Author 15 months ago

I wrote that Fay from my own experience. I was a big grudge holder and it literally killed me inside. Not a good thing.

Thank you again for great comments Fay.

God bless

Brian

demicha 13 months ago

Such a beautiful and inspiring post. Forgiveness is so hard, but when we think of how God continues to firgive us on a daily bases, it's so small. Thank you for sharing the story about the man killed during an accident. Stories like that displays God's strength through His people.

Blessings!

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Brian Gosur Hub Author 13 months ago

Thank you demicha for taking the time to leave your comment. I'm so happy you were blessed.

God bless

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blondey Level 3 Commenter 11 months ago

I had an instance happen recently where to be mad at someone would only cause me further pain and so I thought, 'Why don't I just forgive them?" and not try to get back at them or hold them in anger...why not...so I know I'll feel better. Great points.

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Brian Gosur Hub Author 11 months ago

I've found out from experience, that when I hold back anger toward someone, it hurts me more than them. There is a freedom that you gain when you can truly forgive someone from the heart for what they've done. It frees you.

Thank you Blondey for your comment.

God bless

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The Stages Of ME Level 4 Commenter 4 months ago

God Bless you for your writing on forgiveness ~ how I wish people could truly embrace this with vigor in 2012 ~ God is so patient with us. Just wish we as Christians could be even better about sharing that with others:)

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Brian Gosur Hub Author 4 months ago

I have been very concerned about that in my life as well. We need to be praying and waiting for God to open doors for us and be ready to walk in them when He does.

Thank you for your comment

God bless you.

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