The Wheels Are in Motion - You're in Love

I don't know what compelled me to write this hub about this subject, but here goes.

I was just kind of reminiscing, back to the old days for me, and probably real old days for many of you, but the subject is not old, and it never will ever die. I don't care what age you are, you are never to old for love and remembering when you were in love, and I don't think we should ever forget it.

Maybe that's what's happened to our culture today...there is no more romance and love in the air. There's just so much hate, and talk about my way, and my feelings, and what's in it for me. That's not what love is about. As the song by "The Righteous Brothers" says; "We've Lost That Loving Feeling".

Think back...way back when you first saw her. Just one look and you knew there was something so different about this person. You could see something that nobody else could see, and when you talked to her, you could hear something that nobody else could hear. You couldn't stop thinking about her. All day long your thoughts kept going back to her, and you couldn't wait till the next time you would see each other again. This my friend is love at the very earliest inception.

I remember when a friend of mine, you know one of the guys, would suddenly stop coming around and we all would have to chase him down to find him. He would never call, and he was never home, and then we realized...there was a certain girl. Yes the cupid arrow had hit this guy big time, but that's what love does. The guys didn't matter to him anymore. He was in love.

I've had people ask me, "How do you know when you're in love?" I give them the same answer that I was always given when I asked that very same question..."Oh you'll know, you just will."

But now comes the sticky part, and this is where so many of us, myself included, have screwed up and screwed up big time. We move into the next stage of love.

You see, it's easy when you have each other around all the time, you go every where together and you have no distractions. But those distractions will come and if your new found love is not built on a solid foundation, it is going to rock and it's going to teeter, when the winds blow, and they will blow.

Children are born, work gets a little rough, in-laws might be pressuring in, and you look out the window and see your friends calling you, and there is a whole world that is passing you by and you're missing it, and now you're not feeling to loved anymore. You look over at that person that you couldn't stop thinking about every single day and something has changed.

Love doesn't change, we change, and that's why it's so important to keep romance alive. This phase of love moves toward a season where time is at a premium. We don't have all of the carefree hours to just waste away walking and talking together. It takes a lot more work, and energy, to schedule those times that we're going to spend together. After all guys, we can plan a golf outing or a fishing trip, and spend lots of money, why not put that same initiative towards the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with? The same goes for you ladies also.

Funny how we can always find the time, and the money, to spend on the things that are important to us. What kind of message are we sending to that special person that we used to spend hours and hours with?

Just like the work and hours that go into perfecting that golf swing, or that hobby you have, so does a good solid romantic marriage. It takes work my friend, it just doesn't happen.

Just go back to when you first fell in love, and remember the feelings and emotions you both shared. How you could talk for hours and the time just flew by. You didn't really care where you were, as long as you were together. Like a tender young plant, that has to be nurtured and cared for so it will grow into a strong, deeply rooted tree; so it is with love.

When the kids come and the business or career is young, we neglect to make time for that one very special person. We learn to do life without them and it becomes easier and easier to go it alone.

We're getting older and then one day the kids move out, the career is over, and now we have the time, but that special person doesn't look or act the same way. Their different. I'm different, and I don't know who that person is anymore. I feel alone and lonely.

People, it doesn't have to end this way. Nurture that relationship, feed it, give it your time and it will grow into a fine strong tree. The winds will blow but it will stay strong.

As you grow old together, you will again have that time to spend talking, and hours to walk together and talk about those years, the friends, the kids, and the many things you did together, but most important of all, the life that you shared together.

That's what love and romance is all about, it's about people, the life with two people, a relationship, shared feelings and emotions. You will never take things and events with you when you exit this world, but you will take the relationships that we formed together down here.

From the time, way back, when the wheels were set in motion, and you both first laid eyes on each other, to the time when you will both have to say good-bye one day and, we see each other in heaven, love and romance should be the life blood of your relationship. It's not just something that you use to catch a person and then throw away, it's the blood that pulsates through both your veins and keeps you alive until the machine finally stops.